Showing posts with label friend. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friend. Show all posts

Sunday, August 23, 2015

On Death

Three people that I knew have died in as many months. The first, Jerry La Pointe, died suddenly on June 13.  I first met Jerry in May 2004 when he hired me as a driver.  I only worked for him for about a month, but I really appreciated the opportunity it provided me to get to know his wonderful daughter, Colette La Pointe.  Jerry also helped me get a job when I was in DC at Global Communicators.  I really appreciated the opportunity to develop professional skills in such a welcoming and focused environment.  I would not have been able to do that without Jerry's recommendation.  I was comforted by his friendship with my father and I admired how much he loved his children.

Jerry La Pointe, 1950-2015

The second was my great uncle, Daniel Krinsky.  Daniel did so many wonderful things in his long life. He helped raise his sister (and my grandmother) Elaine (née Krinsky) Boxer grow up in New York in the aftermath of the Great War.  He worked in his father's bakery and served honorably in the European Theater in World War II. He married, sired children, worked as a taxi driver, served as a volunteer EMT, doted on his grandchildren and grand nephews.  He was an accomplished woodworker. He lived long, and well. I admired him for his grit, courage, and candor. I loved walking the streets of New York with him and hearing about how he grew up. I liked how he really lived life. He embraced the digital age with gusto getting an email account, cell phone, and digital camera. I liked how he maintained his little car for longer than I was alive.

David and Daniel at a family reunion in Midtown, Manhattan, December 2013

Finally, Colleen Welsh Alfonso died on August 20.  Colleen made Haiti feel like home to me before anyone else. She helped get me involved in the Marine's bootcamp and invited me to do the first activity outside of Port-au-Prince: go to Kaliko Beach Club. She was spirited, turbulent, enigmatic and fun. She loved history, particularly Soviet history, and pursued an online degree. She was a Marine.  She was strong - she could push and squat over, over, and over again. She wasn't a good runner, but she strove against herself to improve. She often led bootcamp. She worked hard and diligently when the Marines were understaffed for months at a time. She struggled and stumbled, but fought back and sought to better herself.

Colleen, second from right, at a Toga Party in July 2013.
I've been fortunate to have been insulated from death for such a long period of time. These painful reminders of the fragility of life and their unexpected imparts highlights how precious it is and the difficultly of imagining one's affect on others, even from far away. Most importantly, it's important to live life well because it's so terribly short.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

People: Old and New

An acquintance from DC - I'll call her Rocky - is in town and it's a relief to see a familiar face. Rocky and I spent most of yesterday touring Old Delhi on a rickshaw. The pollution and traffic were terrible, but it was delightful seeing the city by bike with someone I trust. Our driver was friendly, hardworking, and helpful. I tipped generously. After Old Delhi, we stopped off at CP to pick-up my suit and some clothes I had tailored and she taught me about about third-culture kids along the way.

We took advantage of the Taj Palace's High Tea and commiserated over work.  I left impressed with her committment, knowledge, and dedication and very appreciated of the chairs offered to us - they were the most comfortable and attractive chairs I think of in recent memory.  Then I ventured forth to PCO - a local and pretentious speakeasy.  It was fun, but we'll see if the bar can deliver again.  It's pricey and I don't know if one can really relax there because it feels like a place to impress someone.

Rocky and I met-up today at The Imperial for High Tea with a colleague I'll call Sproket and we all left impressed by the grandeur of the hotel and pleased with the conversation and company.  For all the maddening things about this place, it's beginning to feel like home.